2017 has easily been the biggest learning curve of my life! It started of awful but from all the problems and stress I’ve learnt to love myself completely and love my life. Of course there are moments where I feel stressed but I rarely feel sad. I’ve learnt that the key is to be IN CONTROL; of your mind, emotions, reactions and thoughts.
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of letting other people’s judgement of you, or how someone behaves towards you affect your mood and mental health. If you’re feeling like this, then STOP! Don’t take other people’s personalities personally, that’s their problem, not yours 🙂
Make yourself, YOUR well-being, YOUR mental health a priority. If other’s dictate your mood then I’m sorry you’ve just given away way too much power. It’s almost as if you gave someone a remote control and said ‘hey, you can pick my mood for the day’
Why you should truly love yourself? Ever heard of that saying ‘you can never love someone unless you love yourself’ ? Sounds like a load of rubbish right? Because love is supposed to be something selfless. But no, I truly agree with that saying 110%. The reason being, if you, yourself, can’t love yourself completely, how can you expect someone else to? You’re supposed to be your own biggest cheerleader. Being in a relationship just so you have someone to make you feel better is not love, that’s called filling a void in your life. Be so into yourself that anyone that brings value to your life is a bonus, not a necessity. And let’s be honest, confidence and self-love is such an attractive trait in a person 🙂
From the age of 18 I would describe myself as someone who is very independent. But as time went on I realised my independence was limited. I’m independent financially and I tend to be able to make fairly good career decisions on my own. But was I independent emotionally? Hell NO. That’s the dangerous one. Because our emotions can make us feel like our world is falling apart, when in reality all emotions and feelings pass. How I overcame this was with a lot of reading and patience. I’ve trained my mind in such a way that even when I’m sad, I can convince myself it’s going to be fine. It’s literally all in your mind! Surround yourself with good energy and good people.
Looking back at life now, I wouldn’t say I regret anything as I believe everything happens for a reason. But I would definitely say that focus on yourself. Work on yourself like you’re some major project. Because when I look back, I never regret all that effort and energy I put into myself, those endless hours working to get my degree, then masters, then applying to 34567654345678765 jobs, or even starting this blog. You know why? Because hard work always pays off.
Really start focusing on yourself. No I don’t mean just work non-stop. Do things you enjoy. You know those things like ‘Oh I’d love to go into this or try this’ JUST DO IT! wether it’s joining the gym, trying yoga, climbing a mountain, reading a book or starting a course! Enjoy life and enjoy being you. If you’re still thinking that you don’t have time for these things, you’re wrong. Make time for yourself, it’s okay to cancel on others to make time for yourself, because you should be your no.1 priority.
If you’re one of those people that constantly feels guilty about letting people down, then I’ve got the perfect book for you; The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k by Sarah Knight.
I’ve been reading this book for the past two weeks and it’s absolutely amazing! No wonder it’s a best seller. I purchased mine from a website online called Book Depository. Here is the link https://www.bookdepository.com/The-Life-Changing-Magic-of-Not-Giving-a-F–k/9781784298463
Anyways loves, I better get some rest! Hope you all can take away something valuable from this post.